This post is a personal response to two posts made by a certain someone dated on 20 June 2007 - the person in question would know who she is.
Firstly, I would like to apologise for "giving a face" when she gave me a suggestion. But I had my reason for it. The reason might not justify the action but nonetheless it is a reason. The story goes like this:
The person in question had requested that we hold a certain event at our place instead of another (the request did not come from her personally but through another source. I would have appreciated it if she had told me herself cos' I know she would have expected the same from us). Anyway, even though it would be quite cumbersome to have the event at our place (transporting the food over, cleaning up after, etc), we agreed to her request as we really want to make things easier for her and in her favour cos' we respect her and care for her. So, after making arrangements to have the venue changed, she suggested, on another day, that we change the itinerary for the event and have a simpler one. Those who know me well would know that I don't like last minute changes to my plans so you can imagine my reaction (i.e. "the face") at having adviced to change my plan, after I already made one major change (i.e. the venue). There, that's my reason for making the face. Like I said it might not be justifiable but it is MY reason.
Also, as my family and friends would know, I am one who can't be angry or displeased about something or at someone for long. In fact, I had forgotten about this "making of the face" issue until I saw it on the person's blog this morning. Imagine my surprise! No wonder she had not come around to visit us lately (it would have been exactly a week today since her last visit); was cold towards me when I called her; and didnt reply my SMS.
Anyhow, I would have thought she would tell me how she felt about the issue to me in person and not let me discover it in her blog. In any case, since she had used her blog as an outlet to let me know about this issue, I feel it is apt to do likewise, here. I hope she accepts my apology cos' I know she is not a petty person and is very forgiving. I would also like to let her know that I appreciate all the advices that she gives and hopes that she continues to do so.
But just to highlight one matter, the event in question, although is largely influence by the Malay culture, is not against Islam's practices. I lifted this information from the Muis website: "Majlis kenduri atau bacaan maulid berzanji yang diadakan serentak dengan majlis mencukur rambut itu tidaklah menyalahi peraturan syariat. Akan tetapi perbuatan menabur beras kunyit, wang, bertih serta memasukkan potongan rambut itu ke dalam mangkuk atau kelapa muda adalah perbuatan khurafat." So be rest assured, we won't have the berat kunyit, wang, bertih, etc, during the event.
Wednesday, June 27, 2007
Wednesday, June 20, 2007
MILs and their DILs
My Secondary school friends visited me a few days ago as I had just given birth to a baby boy on 30 May 2007, three weeks shy of my estimated delivery date on 18 June 2007. Both gals who visited me are pregnant. We started talking about pregnancy and delivery at first. Somehow along the way the topic switched to about mother-in-laws. My two friends had each married into Indian Muslim families and they found it very hard to adjust to the practices of their husbands' families. One complained about the food - having to eat curry and rice cooked with salt, everyday; while the other complained about the MIL dressing her one-year-old daughter in sexy clothings - read tube tops and hot pants! -- please note that my friend is a pious gal, who wears tudung while her MIL is one who dresses sexily although she is in her 40s.
Both didnt understand why MILs have to meddle in their sons' family affairs - given that the sons now have grown up and have their own families. Not enough that these MILs meddle in their sons' affairs but they also like to have things done their own ways, regardless what their sons and daughter in laws think. To make things worse for their daughter in laws, their husbands are "Mommy's boys" so there is no way the sons will go against their Mothers. All my friends can do is suffer in silence as they are told to do things against their will, cos' they did not want to be seen as rude daughter in laws.
My views on this? I feel that although we are in the 21st century and many women are now holding high posts in the corporate world, one thing still remains -- we have to be docile to our husbands and his family. It doesnt matter if at work we are aggressive, when at home, we have to be as meek as a lamb. I feel this scenario is hypocritical but I am sometimes guilty of it too. I mean can we afford to be perceived as rude to our husbands' family members?
Anyway, I hope that MILs out there can be more understanding and not force their own ways on their sons and daughter-in-laws. I mean I am sure there is a limit to a daughter-in-law's patience, right? If she always gives in or compromises to your demands, can't you do the same too? After all, your daughter-in-law is brought up differently, with a different background and sets of values so you can't expect her to agree with everything you say or ask to do. Plus, you wouldnt want your daughter-in-law and your son to quarrel cos' of you - cos' that's what my two gal friends said they argue about with their husbands.
I just hope that my two gal friends will have better relationships with their MILs in the near future. Good luck, L and Z! ;)
p.s: I have nothing against Indian Muslims. It just so happens that my Malay gal friends are married to one. My mentioning it here is just an example of how difference in cultures/backgrounds can cause clashes.
Both didnt understand why MILs have to meddle in their sons' family affairs - given that the sons now have grown up and have their own families. Not enough that these MILs meddle in their sons' affairs but they also like to have things done their own ways, regardless what their sons and daughter in laws think. To make things worse for their daughter in laws, their husbands are "Mommy's boys" so there is no way the sons will go against their Mothers. All my friends can do is suffer in silence as they are told to do things against their will, cos' they did not want to be seen as rude daughter in laws.
My views on this? I feel that although we are in the 21st century and many women are now holding high posts in the corporate world, one thing still remains -- we have to be docile to our husbands and his family. It doesnt matter if at work we are aggressive, when at home, we have to be as meek as a lamb. I feel this scenario is hypocritical but I am sometimes guilty of it too. I mean can we afford to be perceived as rude to our husbands' family members?
Anyway, I hope that MILs out there can be more understanding and not force their own ways on their sons and daughter-in-laws. I mean I am sure there is a limit to a daughter-in-law's patience, right? If she always gives in or compromises to your demands, can't you do the same too? After all, your daughter-in-law is brought up differently, with a different background and sets of values so you can't expect her to agree with everything you say or ask to do. Plus, you wouldnt want your daughter-in-law and your son to quarrel cos' of you - cos' that's what my two gal friends said they argue about with their husbands.
I just hope that my two gal friends will have better relationships with their MILs in the near future. Good luck, L and Z! ;)
p.s: I have nothing against Indian Muslims. It just so happens that my Malay gal friends are married to one. My mentioning it here is just an example of how difference in cultures/backgrounds can cause clashes.
Tuesday, March 20, 2007
What to Say and What Not to Say to a Mother-to-Be
I got this article off the Pregnancy Weekly website (www.pregnancyweekly.com). A good read for those non-preggers - so you know what to say to new moms.
What to Say and What Not to Say to a Mother-to-Be
Understand pregnancy for what it is: A wonderful and beautiful experience, wrapped up in a colossal shift in hormones! Not only is the new mother dealing with the uncomfortable symptoms of pregnancy, but also with anxieties and fears of motherhood (not to mention feeling like a beached whale half the time!). New mothers need a tremendous amount of compassion and support throughout the nine months of pregnancy, and beyond.
Here are a few things to keep in mind when offering advice, support or criticism to a new mother:
On the Issue of Pregnancy and Postpartum Weight:
What to Say (All with Sincerity):
Honey, you look terrific!
Pregnancy becomes you.
You need to gain weight, our baby's well-being depends on it!
Honey, you just had a baby! You look great for just having a baby!
You're having our baby! That automatically makes you beautiful!
What NOT to Say:
Wow, you're BIG for____months!
Well, at least people know you're pregnant!
Should you be eating that? You don't want to gain too much weight.
Hey, try breastfeeding! That should take the weight off!
Oh, I didn't realize you already had your baby!
On the Issue of Bottle Feeding vs. Breastfeeding:
What to Say:
Whatever you decide to do, dear. The baby will be healthy either way.
Let's take a breastfeeding class together.
I know a friend who's breastfeeding her child. I'll put you in touch with her.
There are lots of great formulas out there for you to choose from.
Breastfeeding is a beautiful experience to enjoy with your baby.
What NOT to Say:
Breastfeeding is for mothers who are too cheap to buy formula.
I wouldn't breastfeed if I were you. I tried for three months and gave up because it was too hard.
Formula is unhealthy for babies. He'll be sick all the time.
Mothers who love their babies breastfeed their babies.
Breastfeeding is "dirty" and perverted, especially if done in public.
On the Issue of Child Rearing:
What to Say:
I would love to give you advice on anything you need. Just let me know.
I've got some great books on parenting. Would you like to borrow them?
Let's take a parenting class together. That way, we can be prepared.
Parenthood is challenging, but I know you'll be great at it!
Follow your heart. You know what's best for your child.
What NOT to Say:
Well, here is what I (my mother, Aunt Mabel, Dr. So-n-so, etc.,) think/thinks is best for your baby.
This is the only book worth reading on parenting!
Just you wait when this baby is born; you'll see how difficult parenting is!
Always/Never pamper your children, give them time outs, etc. (In fact, eradicate the words "always" and "never" from your vocabulary when discussing parenting!)
Well, if I were you...
What to Say and What Not to Say to a Mother-to-Be
Understand pregnancy for what it is: A wonderful and beautiful experience, wrapped up in a colossal shift in hormones! Not only is the new mother dealing with the uncomfortable symptoms of pregnancy, but also with anxieties and fears of motherhood (not to mention feeling like a beached whale half the time!). New mothers need a tremendous amount of compassion and support throughout the nine months of pregnancy, and beyond.
Here are a few things to keep in mind when offering advice, support or criticism to a new mother:
On the Issue of Pregnancy and Postpartum Weight:
What to Say (All with Sincerity):
Honey, you look terrific!
Pregnancy becomes you.
You need to gain weight, our baby's well-being depends on it!
Honey, you just had a baby! You look great for just having a baby!
You're having our baby! That automatically makes you beautiful!
What NOT to Say:
Wow, you're BIG for____months!
Well, at least people know you're pregnant!
Should you be eating that? You don't want to gain too much weight.
Hey, try breastfeeding! That should take the weight off!
Oh, I didn't realize you already had your baby!
On the Issue of Bottle Feeding vs. Breastfeeding:
What to Say:
Whatever you decide to do, dear. The baby will be healthy either way.
Let's take a breastfeeding class together.
I know a friend who's breastfeeding her child. I'll put you in touch with her.
There are lots of great formulas out there for you to choose from.
Breastfeeding is a beautiful experience to enjoy with your baby.
What NOT to Say:
Breastfeeding is for mothers who are too cheap to buy formula.
I wouldn't breastfeed if I were you. I tried for three months and gave up because it was too hard.
Formula is unhealthy for babies. He'll be sick all the time.
Mothers who love their babies breastfeed their babies.
Breastfeeding is "dirty" and perverted, especially if done in public.
On the Issue of Child Rearing:
What to Say:
I would love to give you advice on anything you need. Just let me know.
I've got some great books on parenting. Would you like to borrow them?
Let's take a parenting class together. That way, we can be prepared.
Parenthood is challenging, but I know you'll be great at it!
Follow your heart. You know what's best for your child.
What NOT to Say:
Well, here is what I (my mother, Aunt Mabel, Dr. So-n-so, etc.,) think/thinks is best for your baby.
This is the only book worth reading on parenting!
Just you wait when this baby is born; you'll see how difficult parenting is!
Always/Never pamper your children, give them time outs, etc. (In fact, eradicate the words "always" and "never" from your vocabulary when discussing parenting!)
Well, if I were you...
Monday, March 19, 2007
My Dream Vacation
I fell in love with Santorini, one of the islands off Greece after I watch The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants. I vow to myself that I'll save enough money to visit this beautiful sanctuary within the next three years (ok, make that five). Meanwhile, all I can do is drool at the photos of the place.
A Hot Night = A Pissed Off Me
It's very hot, tonight. I am perspiring, non-stop. This despite me showering twice and having the fan blown at me on full speed!
Other than being incredibly hot, I said some harsh things on msn to my dear friend. I feel crappy about how I delivered my thoughts. I feel I could be more diplomatic with my words but being physically hot, didnt exactly help me to keep my cool. All these said, I am not apologising for what I said cos' I meant them - only that I could have delivered it in a better way.... Hmmm, am I making sense here?
Other than being incredibly hot, I said some harsh things on msn to my dear friend. I feel crappy about how I delivered my thoughts. I feel I could be more diplomatic with my words but being physically hot, didnt exactly help me to keep my cool. All these said, I am not apologising for what I said cos' I meant them - only that I could have delivered it in a better way.... Hmmm, am I making sense here?
Friday, March 16, 2007
To My Dear Friend
One of my dearest friend is feeling down. I am at my wits' end as I don't know how I can help my friend. But I just want to say to that person (you know who you are) -
That no matter how frustrating things are,
How things are not going right for you,
You'll always have a friend in me.
I'll always be here for you,
And in my eyes you are strong,
You'll overcome this rough patch in no time at all.
I care for you and I am thankful to have a wonderful friend like you....
That no matter how frustrating things are,
How things are not going right for you,
You'll always have a friend in me.
I'll always be here for you,
And in my eyes you are strong,
You'll overcome this rough patch in no time at all.
I care for you and I am thankful to have a wonderful friend like you....
Friday, March 09, 2007
Checklist for Hospital Bag for Admission
Here's another useful list that I had gathered. This is for the "Hospital Bag" and it should be packed, ideally by your seventh month in case you have to deliver prematurely.
Daddy’s & mommy’s identity cards
Letter from Gynecologist
Booking Slip for admission
Notebook, writing materials
For Baby
2 baby tops (1 long-sleeve, 1 short sleeve)
1 bottom
2 pair of mittens and booties (preferably baby-socks coz' booties are too big on new born
2 receiving blanket with-hoods
1 swaddling cloth
Handkerchiefs
1 baby soft cap (if the receiving blanket hood is too big)
For Mommy
Maternity or Normal pads (Day & Night use)
2 pyjamas with front opening buttons for nursing
Slippers
Inflatable ring (After Episiotomy) - can loan from hospital too
1 pack disposable panties
Clothes for after discharge
Books/Magazines
2 nursing bras
Disposable Nursing pads
1 face towel
1 bath towel
Toiletries
A pair of socks (if feeling-cold at night)
Plastic bags for soiled clothings
Handphone & charger
Breast Pump
Snacks in case you don’t like hospital food
Nipple cream
Fybogel – can get from Pharmacy (Drink a pack aft delivery... makes it easier to move your bowels cos with the stitches below, it can get quite painful)
For Daddy/Miscellaneous
A jacket
Digital camera (CF card, batteries, charger)
Video-cam (batteries, tapes)
Essence of chicken/Red bull
Chocolate bars-& snacks
Tissues/ Wet tissues
2 bottles of Mineral Water
Note: I was advised not to wear my contact lenses. So for those who wants to wear your contact lenses upon discharge, just bring them but make sure you don't wear them when you are going for delivery.
Daddy’s & mommy’s identity cards
Letter from Gynecologist
Booking Slip for admission
Notebook, writing materials
For Baby
2 baby tops (1 long-sleeve, 1 short sleeve)
1 bottom
2 pair of mittens and booties (preferably baby-socks coz' booties are too big on new born
2 receiving blanket with-hoods
1 swaddling cloth
Handkerchiefs
1 baby soft cap (if the receiving blanket hood is too big)
For Mommy
Maternity or Normal pads (Day & Night use)
2 pyjamas with front opening buttons for nursing
Slippers
Inflatable ring (After Episiotomy) - can loan from hospital too
1 pack disposable panties
Clothes for after discharge
Books/Magazines
2 nursing bras
Disposable Nursing pads
1 face towel
1 bath towel
Toiletries
A pair of socks (if feeling-cold at night)
Plastic bags for soiled clothings
Handphone & charger
Breast Pump
Snacks in case you don’t like hospital food
Nipple cream
Fybogel – can get from Pharmacy (Drink a pack aft delivery... makes it easier to move your bowels cos with the stitches below, it can get quite painful)
For Daddy/Miscellaneous
A jacket
Digital camera (CF card, batteries, charger)
Video-cam (batteries, tapes)
Essence of chicken/Red bull
Chocolate bars-& snacks
Tissues/ Wet tissues
2 bottles of Mineral Water
Note: I was advised not to wear my contact lenses. So for those who wants to wear your contact lenses upon discharge, just bring them but make sure you don't wear them when you are going for delivery.
Essentials for Preggy Moms & Babies
Seeing that I'll be a first time mom, I decided to do some research on the items that I'll be needing for my baby. My other preggy friends had told me to start buying the items for my baby before my seventh month cos 1. in case I have to give birth prematurely (I hope not) 2. once I am in the third trimester, I'll be more tired and "heavier" and shopping will be quite an inconvenient.
Anyway, I want to share the list of essential items that preggy moms should get:
A. Clothing
Baby abdominal binder - 5
Swaddling cloth - 4
Hat - 2
Mittens - 5
Booties - 5
Short pants - 3
Long pants - 3
Short sleeved shirt (button) - 2
Short sleeved shirt (side-tying) - 2
Long sleeved shirt (button) - 2
Long sleeved shirt (side-tying) - 2
Romper (short sleeved) - 4
Romper (long sleeved) - 2
Socks - 5
B. Sleeping
Baby Cot/Playpen - 1 (I am considering getting the baby cot cum playpen as it's more cost-effective)
Baby pillow - 2
Bolster - 2
Bedding sets - 2
Blanket - 1
Mattress - 1
Waterproof sheet - 1
C. Daily Essentials
Baby wet wipes
Baby detergent
Bottle brush - 1
Diaper
Milk powder container
Teats - 2
Pacifier - 2
Feeding bottle - 3
Bottle warmer -2
Ear thermometer - 1
Fever cool plaster
Changing mat - 1
Steam steriliser - 1
Sterilising tablets
D. Bathing
Nappy rash cream
Baby shampoo
Baby bath gel
Bath towel
Face towel
Bath mat
Baby powder
Bath sponge
Bath tub
Baby lotion/oil
Miniature set of bath essentials - for travelling or to put at caretaker's place
E. Breast Feeding
Breast pump - 1 (manual/electric)
Disposable breast pad
Nipple cream/Breast care gel
Breastmilk storage bag
Stretch mark cream
F. Travelling
Baby carrier
Baby stroller (I plan to get a lightweight stroller and am considering brands like Combi and BabyCraft cos' they are cheap, light and durable -- cost less than $200)
Diaper bag
Feeding set
Travel changing mat
I hope the list is useful. Do let me know if I miss out on any other important items. Happy shopping! :)
Anyway, I want to share the list of essential items that preggy moms should get:
A. Clothing
Baby abdominal binder - 5
Swaddling cloth - 4
Hat - 2
Mittens - 5
Booties - 5
Short pants - 3
Long pants - 3
Short sleeved shirt (button) - 2
Short sleeved shirt (side-tying) - 2
Long sleeved shirt (button) - 2
Long sleeved shirt (side-tying) - 2
Romper (short sleeved) - 4
Romper (long sleeved) - 2
Socks - 5
B. Sleeping
Baby Cot/Playpen - 1 (I am considering getting the baby cot cum playpen as it's more cost-effective)
Baby pillow - 2
Bolster - 2
Bedding sets - 2
Blanket - 1
Mattress - 1
Waterproof sheet - 1
C. Daily Essentials
Baby wet wipes
Baby detergent
Bottle brush - 1
Diaper
Milk powder container
Teats - 2
Pacifier - 2
Feeding bottle - 3
Bottle warmer -2
Ear thermometer - 1
Fever cool plaster
Changing mat - 1
Steam steriliser - 1
Sterilising tablets
D. Bathing
Nappy rash cream
Baby shampoo
Baby bath gel
Bath towel
Face towel
Bath mat
Baby powder
Bath sponge
Bath tub
Baby lotion/oil
Miniature set of bath essentials - for travelling or to put at caretaker's place
E. Breast Feeding
Breast pump - 1 (manual/electric)
Disposable breast pad
Nipple cream/Breast care gel
Breastmilk storage bag
Stretch mark cream
F. Travelling
Baby carrier
Baby stroller (I plan to get a lightweight stroller and am considering brands like Combi and BabyCraft cos' they are cheap, light and durable -- cost less than $200)
Diaper bag
Feeding set
Travel changing mat
I hope the list is useful. Do let me know if I miss out on any other important items. Happy shopping! :)
Wednesday, March 07, 2007
Tutti Fruitti
This is quite accurate… Make a guess which fruit I am...
Fruit Personality Test
Did you know that you can tell what kind of personalities people have by the kind of fruits they like? Click on the name of the fruit you picked to see your personality.
Which fruit would you pick first if you were handed the following:
1. Orange
2. Apple
3. Banana
4. Coconut
5. Pineapple
6. Papaya
7. Mango
8. Cherry
9. Black Grapes
10. Peach
11. Custard Apple
12. Pear
ORANGE
If an orange is your favorite fruit, it speaks of a person who has enduring patience and willpower. You like to do things slowly, but very thoroughly and are completely undaunted by hard work. You tend to be shy, but are reliable and a trustworthy friend. You select your partner with care and you love with all your heart. You avoid conflict at all costs.
APPLE
If an apple is your favorite fruit, you are an extravagant, impulsive and outspoken person, often with a bit of a temper. While you may not be the best organizer yourself, you make a good team leader and are good at moving things forward. You can take quick action in most situations. You enjoy travel immensely. You ooze with charm when you are with your partner. You have an enthusiasm for life, unmatched by most.
BANANA
You are a softie! Loving, gentle, warm and sympathetic by nature is the banana lover. You often lack in self-confidence and are quite timid by nature. People often take advantage of your sweet temperedness, and sheer vulnerability to a situation. You adore your partner in every which way, both for their mental and physical beauty! Because of the way you are, your relationship is always very much in harmony!
COCONUT
The coconut lover is a serious, very thoughtful and contemplative person. Though you enjoy socializing, you are particular about the company you keep. You tend to be stubborn but not necessarily foolhardy. Shrewd, quick-witted and alert, you ensure that you are right on top of any given scenario, especially at work. You need a partner with brains and while passion is important it certainly isn't everything for you.
PINEAPPLE
You are quick to decide and even quicker to act. You are brave in making career changes. You have exceptional organizing abilities and are undaunted by the size of the task at hand. You tend to be self reliant, sincere and honest in your dealings with others. Though you don't often make friends very quickly, once you do, it is for life. You rarely, if ever, make romantic overtures. Your partner is often impressed with your sterling qualities but disappointed in your ability to show affection.
PAPAYA
You are truly fearless and take much that happens in life in stride. You give considerable thought to things you do. You have a sense of humor that along with your generous nature keeps you in most people's good books. You are a go-getter in your professional life, and have a knack for being in the right place at the right time. You enjoy meeting new people and seeing new sights whenever you can. Your sense of humor is what attracts members of the opposite sex to you more than anything else. It is simply charming!
MANGO
A mango lover is a personality to be reckoned with, quite often it's a person who has quite fixed ideas, and influencing you is not an easy task. You tend to be an extremist with strong likes and dislikes, and at times even like to control a situation. You enjoy getting involved in something that presents mental challenge. Strong as you may be, you are like a kitten when you are with your partner. You accommodate the love of your life, and make up for all the strong will elsewhere!
CHERRY
If cherry is your favorite fruit, life isn't always as sweet for you. You often face ups and downs, particularly professionally, and find that you make small sums of $$$, instead of a lump sum. You have a fertile imagination and are often involved in creative pursuits. You are a very sincere and loyal partner, but find that expressing your feelings is not very easy. Your home is your haven, and you love nothing more than being surrounded by close family and your beloved partner.
BLACK GRAPES
You are a polite person in general, but do have quick flare-ups of temper that cool down just as quickly. You enjoy beauty in all forms, including beautiful people. You are very popular because of your warm, gregarious nature. You have a zest for life, you enjoy everything you do, right from the way you dress, to your style and your day-to-day life. Your partner must share your zeal and zing for life to enjoy all you have to offer!
PEACH
Like a peach, you enjoy the juice of life and all its lush ripeness! You are the friendly sort, and are quite frank and outspoken, which adds to your charm. You are quick to forgive and forget; and value your friendships highly. You have an independent and ambitious streak in you, that makes you a real go-getter. You are the ideal lover, fiery and passionate but sincere and faithful in love. You don't however like to display all that passion in public.
CUSTARD APPLE
You are a modest and conservative person who can be quite sensitive at times. You tend to be thoughtful and contemplative, and therefore are rarely rash in doing things. You are quite ambitious and are good at anything that requires much detailing or working with numbers. You are quick at finding fault with others. While looking for a partner, you value a person's intellect far above their looks or good old passion. You are quite shy and not very comfortable demonstrating affection.
PEAR
If you put your mind to something you can do it successfully, but by and large you tend to be fickle and have trouble completing a task with the enthusiasm you started it with. You need to know the results of your efforts almost immediately. You enjoy mental stimulation and love to get into a good discussion!
A mango lover is what I am........ ;)
Fruit Personality Test
Did you know that you can tell what kind of personalities people have by the kind of fruits they like? Click on the name of the fruit you picked to see your personality.
Which fruit would you pick first if you were handed the following:
1. Orange
2. Apple
3. Banana
4. Coconut
5. Pineapple
6. Papaya
7. Mango
8. Cherry
9. Black Grapes
10. Peach
11. Custard Apple
12. Pear
ORANGE
If an orange is your favorite fruit, it speaks of a person who has enduring patience and willpower. You like to do things slowly, but very thoroughly and are completely undaunted by hard work. You tend to be shy, but are reliable and a trustworthy friend. You select your partner with care and you love with all your heart. You avoid conflict at all costs.
APPLE
If an apple is your favorite fruit, you are an extravagant, impulsive and outspoken person, often with a bit of a temper. While you may not be the best organizer yourself, you make a good team leader and are good at moving things forward. You can take quick action in most situations. You enjoy travel immensely. You ooze with charm when you are with your partner. You have an enthusiasm for life, unmatched by most.
BANANA
You are a softie! Loving, gentle, warm and sympathetic by nature is the banana lover. You often lack in self-confidence and are quite timid by nature. People often take advantage of your sweet temperedness, and sheer vulnerability to a situation. You adore your partner in every which way, both for their mental and physical beauty! Because of the way you are, your relationship is always very much in harmony!
COCONUT
The coconut lover is a serious, very thoughtful and contemplative person. Though you enjoy socializing, you are particular about the company you keep. You tend to be stubborn but not necessarily foolhardy. Shrewd, quick-witted and alert, you ensure that you are right on top of any given scenario, especially at work. You need a partner with brains and while passion is important it certainly isn't everything for you.
PINEAPPLE
You are quick to decide and even quicker to act. You are brave in making career changes. You have exceptional organizing abilities and are undaunted by the size of the task at hand. You tend to be self reliant, sincere and honest in your dealings with others. Though you don't often make friends very quickly, once you do, it is for life. You rarely, if ever, make romantic overtures. Your partner is often impressed with your sterling qualities but disappointed in your ability to show affection.
PAPAYA
You are truly fearless and take much that happens in life in stride. You give considerable thought to things you do. You have a sense of humor that along with your generous nature keeps you in most people's good books. You are a go-getter in your professional life, and have a knack for being in the right place at the right time. You enjoy meeting new people and seeing new sights whenever you can. Your sense of humor is what attracts members of the opposite sex to you more than anything else. It is simply charming!
MANGO
A mango lover is a personality to be reckoned with, quite often it's a person who has quite fixed ideas, and influencing you is not an easy task. You tend to be an extremist with strong likes and dislikes, and at times even like to control a situation. You enjoy getting involved in something that presents mental challenge. Strong as you may be, you are like a kitten when you are with your partner. You accommodate the love of your life, and make up for all the strong will elsewhere!
CHERRY
If cherry is your favorite fruit, life isn't always as sweet for you. You often face ups and downs, particularly professionally, and find that you make small sums of $$$, instead of a lump sum. You have a fertile imagination and are often involved in creative pursuits. You are a very sincere and loyal partner, but find that expressing your feelings is not very easy. Your home is your haven, and you love nothing more than being surrounded by close family and your beloved partner.
BLACK GRAPES
You are a polite person in general, but do have quick flare-ups of temper that cool down just as quickly. You enjoy beauty in all forms, including beautiful people. You are very popular because of your warm, gregarious nature. You have a zest for life, you enjoy everything you do, right from the way you dress, to your style and your day-to-day life. Your partner must share your zeal and zing for life to enjoy all you have to offer!
PEACH
Like a peach, you enjoy the juice of life and all its lush ripeness! You are the friendly sort, and are quite frank and outspoken, which adds to your charm. You are quick to forgive and forget; and value your friendships highly. You have an independent and ambitious streak in you, that makes you a real go-getter. You are the ideal lover, fiery and passionate but sincere and faithful in love. You don't however like to display all that passion in public.
CUSTARD APPLE
You are a modest and conservative person who can be quite sensitive at times. You tend to be thoughtful and contemplative, and therefore are rarely rash in doing things. You are quite ambitious and are good at anything that requires much detailing or working with numbers. You are quick at finding fault with others. While looking for a partner, you value a person's intellect far above their looks or good old passion. You are quite shy and not very comfortable demonstrating affection.
PEAR
If you put your mind to something you can do it successfully, but by and large you tend to be fickle and have trouble completing a task with the enthusiasm you started it with. You need to know the results of your efforts almost immediately. You enjoy mental stimulation and love to get into a good discussion!
A mango lover is what I am........ ;)
Tuesday, February 27, 2007
Tiffany & Co. is My New-Found Best Friend!
Recently, I made a trip to Tiffany & Co. at Ngee Ann City with Hubby and two guy friends - one of them was looking for a birthday gift for his girlfriend. I was the only female in the group and hence had the delightful time trying out the jewellery there for the men to see. I tried on countless of stuff and had fallen in love with one ring - the Tiffany Atlas® Numerical ring!!! It's an eighteen karat white gold with three diamonds, carat total weight.18, color grade G-H, clarity grade VVS-VS, at a whopping cost of S$2,300 (which I thought was quite an OK price).
Hubby loved the ring too and said that he would buy me the ring as a gift once our baby boy is born (that's hopefully in Jun 07). But, being practical me, I told him to save the money for our baby. Spending money on our little bundle of joy transcends the joy of possessing even the most gorgeous ring in the world.........
But, look, how beautiful the ring is! And to think that I never had anything from Tiffany & Co.!! :(
Friday, February 09, 2007
Signs of Pregnancy
Some of my friends are trying to get pregnant and had asked me for signs of pregnancy. For their benefit, I have listed some of the signs here. Good luck, gals! :)
Usually, one would see/feel changes to her body around Week 4. Week 1 is actually the week of your menstrual period but still counts towards the 40-week pregnancy. This is because the expected delivery date is calculated from the first day of your last period.
Anyway, during Week 4, Mom will experience symptoms of PMS such as fatigue, tingling or aching breasts, nausea, cramps and even some spotting. At this point, if you try doing a home pregnancy test, the result may not be accurate.
Week 5 - same as Week 4, but could be slightly heightened. Please avoid eating soft cheeses, unasteurised milk and juices, raw/undercooked meats, raw eggs, and raw shellfish, as they van cause illnesses which may cause birth defects.
Week 6 - Mom will feel extreme fatigue as her body adjusts to the demands of the pregnancy. Tender and aching breasts as well as nausea and vomitting (morning sickness) will make it even worse! Now is a good time to for a home pregnancy test. Once, result is positive, you should schedule your first prenatal visit where your doctor will take your medical history and perform a complete physical examination.
Medical history:
a) Menstrual history - whether your cycles are regular and the date of your last mentrual period
b) Information on any previous pregnancies, miscarriages/stillbirths, abortions, problems with your reproductive organs
c) Family health history such as heart disease/genetic defects
d) Serious illnesses, surgeries that you have had
Physical examination:
a) A urine test to confirm pregnancy
b) Weight and blood pressure management
c) A urine test to check your sugar and protein levels as well as if there is any sign of bacteria
d) A blood test for blood typing and to make sure that you are not iron-deficient and are immune to German measels - at this visit, doctor might perform a blood test on your hubby, as well.
In any case, women who are planning to get pregnant should start consuming folic acid (before and throughout the pregnancy). Folate-rich foods include dark green leafy vegetables like spinach, citrus fruits, nuts, legumes, whole grains, and fortified breads and cereals. Since folic acid is a water-soluble vitamin you can lose this vitamin in cooking water, so steam or cook vegetables with a small amount of water to preserve the folate. Other ways is to purchase folic acid/prenatal vitamins and nutrients from the pharmacies. Happy trying!
Usually, one would see/feel changes to her body around Week 4. Week 1 is actually the week of your menstrual period but still counts towards the 40-week pregnancy. This is because the expected delivery date is calculated from the first day of your last period.
Anyway, during Week 4, Mom will experience symptoms of PMS such as fatigue, tingling or aching breasts, nausea, cramps and even some spotting. At this point, if you try doing a home pregnancy test, the result may not be accurate.
Week 5 - same as Week 4, but could be slightly heightened. Please avoid eating soft cheeses, unasteurised milk and juices, raw/undercooked meats, raw eggs, and raw shellfish, as they van cause illnesses which may cause birth defects.
Week 6 - Mom will feel extreme fatigue as her body adjusts to the demands of the pregnancy. Tender and aching breasts as well as nausea and vomitting (morning sickness) will make it even worse! Now is a good time to for a home pregnancy test. Once, result is positive, you should schedule your first prenatal visit where your doctor will take your medical history and perform a complete physical examination.
Medical history:
a) Menstrual history - whether your cycles are regular and the date of your last mentrual period
b) Information on any previous pregnancies, miscarriages/stillbirths, abortions, problems with your reproductive organs
c) Family health history such as heart disease/genetic defects
d) Serious illnesses, surgeries that you have had
Physical examination:
a) A urine test to confirm pregnancy
b) Weight and blood pressure management
c) A urine test to check your sugar and protein levels as well as if there is any sign of bacteria
d) A blood test for blood typing and to make sure that you are not iron-deficient and are immune to German measels - at this visit, doctor might perform a blood test on your hubby, as well.
In any case, women who are planning to get pregnant should start consuming folic acid (before and throughout the pregnancy). Folate-rich foods include dark green leafy vegetables like spinach, citrus fruits, nuts, legumes, whole grains, and fortified breads and cereals. Since folic acid is a water-soluble vitamin you can lose this vitamin in cooking water, so steam or cook vegetables with a small amount of water to preserve the folate. Other ways is to purchase folic acid/prenatal vitamins and nutrients from the pharmacies. Happy trying!
My New Photo Site
I have decided to post my photos at spaces instead cos' I find it troublesome to upload photos here. Anyway, the url is: http://tantynr.spaces.live.com/
Thursday, February 01, 2007
The Baby is a .............. BOY!
To those who had read my earlier post on 12 Jan, where I dreamt about having a baby boy - it's been confirmed. I'll be having a baby boy about four months from now! I went for a scan at KKH on 30 Jan and both Hubby and I saw our beautiful baby, kicking and punching (me). That was the first time Hubby came in for the scan and he cried. It was really a beautiful moment.
Anyway we have decided on a name for our baby boy - Aryan Mikael. (Aryan means of outmost strength in Arabic while Mikael is the name of one of God's angels - the one who brings prosperity)
Anyway we have decided on a name for our baby boy - Aryan Mikael. (Aryan means of outmost strength in Arabic while Mikael is the name of one of God's angels - the one who brings prosperity)
Our baby at 20 weeks (5 mths)
Saturday, January 20, 2007
The First Kick
Last night I had the most exciting experience of my (close to) 28 years! I was lying in bed and I felt a movement in my stomach, like a bubble rising up. The second time, the "bubble" was much stronger - it was a kick. My baby was kicking me! I screamed for Hubby and he put his ear on my tummy, only to be given a strong kick right on his ear!! We both scream in unison, surprised.... After that, Baby gave a few more softer kicks all the way till I fall asleep. But that's not before, sentimental me cried and cried, from joy, of course.
I can't wait for my next scan on the 30th, so I'll know what Baby's gender is...
I can't wait for my next scan on the 30th, so I'll know what Baby's gender is...
Friday, January 12, 2007
I Dreamt... of a Baby Boy
Last night or rather this morning (we slept late as we had Lenny's friends, Ian, Su, Nisa, Hafiz and Mr J, over for a game of Bingo!) I had a dream. In the dream I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy! One part of the dream, I was trying to breastfeed him for the first time and it was really a poignant moment as both baby and I did something so personal, together, for the first time. I woke up feeling so jovial and the happiness stuck with me throughout the day. :)
In case any of you are wondering, I do not know the gender of my baby yet. Hopefully, I'll know at my next scan on 30 Jan. But whatever the gender is, I am thankful for this wonderful chance to be a mother.
In case any of you are wondering, I do not know the gender of my baby yet. Hopefully, I'll know at my next scan on 30 Jan. But whatever the gender is, I am thankful for this wonderful chance to be a mother.
Wednesday, January 10, 2007
Satay Not Power
Earlier tonight, Mr J drove Hubby and I to Lau Pa Sat for satay. It was upon my suggestion as I saw a food review on TV about the duck satay that one of the stalls there sells. When we reached there, we discovered that the reviewed stall was closed.
There were many touters around trying to convince us to patronise their stalls. In the end we settled for "Power Satay" as the stall also served duck satay (our main reason for going there in the first place).
Mr J took charge of the ordering - 10 sticks each of duck, beef, tripe and 15 sticks of mutton. When the satays came, we were excited. They look quite presentable, delicious even, but there's where the good points end.
Firstly, the sauce lacked spices and peanuts. It also seemed that it wasnt freshly made. Secondly, the duck tasted bland. Thirdly, the beef was over marinated and didnt have any "beef" taste. Fourthly, the tripe was too dry and tasted like plastic.
The consolations were that the mutton was quite delicious and the hawker actually gave us some rice cakes (lontong), free of charge.
Needless to say we were very disappointed with the food and I for one was in quite a foul mood as I didn’t get the delicious satay that I craved for. My anger was further fuelled by Mr J’s ongoing complaining about a certain female travel companion who went with him on his recent trip. I get it, and I don’t know why he doesn’t get it – that woman is a bitch. So, enuf said.
There were many touters around trying to convince us to patronise their stalls. In the end we settled for "Power Satay" as the stall also served duck satay (our main reason for going there in the first place).
Mr J took charge of the ordering - 10 sticks each of duck, beef, tripe and 15 sticks of mutton. When the satays came, we were excited. They look quite presentable, delicious even, but there's where the good points end.
Firstly, the sauce lacked spices and peanuts. It also seemed that it wasnt freshly made. Secondly, the duck tasted bland. Thirdly, the beef was over marinated and didnt have any "beef" taste. Fourthly, the tripe was too dry and tasted like plastic.
The consolations were that the mutton was quite delicious and the hawker actually gave us some rice cakes (lontong), free of charge.
Needless to say we were very disappointed with the food and I for one was in quite a foul mood as I didn’t get the delicious satay that I craved for. My anger was further fuelled by Mr J’s ongoing complaining about a certain female travel companion who went with him on his recent trip. I get it, and I don’t know why he doesn’t get it – that woman is a bitch. So, enuf said.
Tuesday, January 09, 2007
The Wicker Man? More Like The Weaker Man!
I am a sucker for horror movies and the trailer for The Wicker Man said that it was the first horror movie of 2007. And I thought to myself, hey, I have to catch this especially since Nicholas Cage is starring in it and I so love that man. Boy, did I make a terrible mistake!
Nick's character, Edward Malus (he's Male, geddit?)'s ex-fiancée, Willow wrote to tell him that her little daughter Rowan has gone missing. Gung-ho Edward goes to SummersIsle to search for the missing girl. The movie starts going downhill after Edward reaches the mysterious island, for the following characters:
a) Willow (Kate Beahan) with her grotesquely collagen-pumped and bee-stung lips -- gross!
© 2006 Warner Bros. Entertainment Inc.
b) Sister Rose (Molly Parker in a full-on annoying mode) who teaches all the little girls on the island.
© 2006 Warner Bros. Entertainment Inc.c) The many scary twins on this island - both young and old. The worst of the lot is a pair of elderly twins who speak in unison.
d) Nick in a bear costume -- eeeeeewwww!
In my book, The Wicker Man would have crashed and burned if not for Edward physically abusing Sister Honey (Leelee Sobieski) and another character whose name now eludes me. That scene at least gave me some comfort as I did feel like physically abusing someone after watching the show!
© 2006 Warner Bros. Entertainment Inc.
So please take my advice and give this Wicker show a miss....
Monday, January 08, 2007
Hari Raya Haji 2006
Hari Raya Haji for the year 2006 fell on the last day of 2006 - 31 Dec. First stop for us that day was to Hubby's grandma's place in Pasir Ris. We met up with my father in law and bro in law there. After that we went to my parents'. As my Aunt is staying with my parents, Hari Raya Haji was quite a big affair with lots of delicious food! We had two types of laksa, rojak bandung, fried satay, lontong and nasi padang!
Foodie Delights
And as usual, as at all festivities, all my cousins were there. So, I got to see my nieces and nephews! Here's a photo of me (centre); Anis (left) and Danish (right). Just look at how chubby Danish is (drools).... Those cheeks.... Arghhhh..... By the way, I cant carry him for long cos' he's 20kgs!!! Sleepy-eyed Hubby also wanted a photo with the cutie pies so there's one of him with them, too.
Italia Regalo Per Mia Bambino
Mr J is finally back from his 2-week trip to Italy with a bad sinus and minus 250 euros and S$1k+ camera (which were stolen on his first day in Italy!). Anyway I am glad he's back cos' I do miss having him around.
Hubby and I met up with him on the same day he came back (last Fri) and we went to Carnivore at Vivo City to watch The GoodFellas performed. After that, we went to supper with the gang to Simpang Bedok. Mr J was so delighted cos' he missed local fare.
Although, Mr J didnt get me anything from Italy, he got the cutest prezzie for mia bambino!
Wednesday, January 03, 2007
Farewell 2006, Hello 2007!
2006 has been an OK year for me. I said OK cos' it was a mixture of great and not-so-great happenings. Some of the highlights of 2006 that had been great for me included being pregnant, getting the $600 Progress Package, my KL trips (in Jul with Mr J for work and in Dec), my sis being back in the Lion City, getting to know and spending time with new friends and starting my Tanty's Kitchen blog.
The not-so-great happenings were Hubby getting the slip disc, Mr J getting knocked down by a car, Mr J getting mugged on the first day of his Italy trip and others that I don't wish to recall. Let those stay in the past where they can't hurt me....
At the start of the new year, it's usual to make new resolutions. And I for one am a sucker for being usual; common; ordinary (you get the pcture), so here are my resolutions in no particular order:
1. Lose weight after birth (as soon as possible) and stay trim
2. Spend as much time with Baby and Hubby
3. Get a good job which pays well after confinement
4. Spend more time my bro. He's growing up so fast and yet I barely know what's happening in his life.
5. Save enough money to go for a holiday - maybe visit my sis in Brisbane
6. Get Hubby to quit smoking cos' second hand smoke is BAD for Baby
7. Be more patient with Hubby even when he's nonsensical
8. Keep in touch with both old and new friends - I have been neglecting some of my old friends, like Su and Zu and I am terribly ashamed of that.
9. Spend only on neccessities and indulge only once in a blue moon - I need to save up for Baby's future (and that's never too early!)
10. Just be contented with what I have and be happy with what life has to offer
Ok, I'll let you know next year (2008) how many of the above resolutions I kept (haha).... To all of you, have a great healthy, happy, successful 2007!
The not-so-great happenings were Hubby getting the slip disc, Mr J getting knocked down by a car, Mr J getting mugged on the first day of his Italy trip and others that I don't wish to recall. Let those stay in the past where they can't hurt me....
At the start of the new year, it's usual to make new resolutions. And I for one am a sucker for being usual; common; ordinary (you get the pcture), so here are my resolutions in no particular order:
1. Lose weight after birth (as soon as possible) and stay trim
2. Spend as much time with Baby and Hubby
3. Get a good job which pays well after confinement
4. Spend more time my bro. He's growing up so fast and yet I barely know what's happening in his life.
5. Save enough money to go for a holiday - maybe visit my sis in Brisbane
6. Get Hubby to quit smoking cos' second hand smoke is BAD for Baby
7. Be more patient with Hubby even when he's nonsensical
8. Keep in touch with both old and new friends - I have been neglecting some of my old friends, like Su and Zu and I am terribly ashamed of that.
9. Spend only on neccessities and indulge only once in a blue moon - I need to save up for Baby's future (and that's never too early!)
10. Just be contented with what I have and be happy with what life has to offer
Ok, I'll let you know next year (2008) how many of the above resolutions I kept (haha).... To all of you, have a great healthy, happy, successful 2007!
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